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Bonding Through Yoga

Adoption is not easy. It doesn’t matter how well prepared you thought you were or that you got the sweetest and best little boy in the world. Your whole life has changed completely. To keep from turning into a raving lunatic when the stress got to be too much (although my husband would beg to differ and say that I have turned into a raving lunatic), I turned to yoga and stretching.

HB thought this was a fun new game. As soon as I got on the floor, he would climb on my back and cling to me like a monkey.

At first I tried to get him to let go, telling him, “Mommy’s doing yoga.” But he refused, so I kept stretching and practicing with him attached to me like a leech.

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When I stopped, he would laugh and shout, “More!” And I realized that yoga was a great way for me to bond even more with HB.

Yoga helps us attach to each other.

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He learns that he is safe with me and I will always hold him tight, even when a dachshund is frantically licking my face.

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He becomes secure in my strength to always hold him up, even when the other dachshund is determined to make me buckle.

And he learns that he can trust me, and that I’ll be there for him no matter what.

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He is gaining strength, and is already holding his mommy up with one hand.

He is working on his balance, and yoga is helping him become a more stable and confident little boy.

And he is learning about flexibility, both physically and in his daily life.

Most important of all, yoga let’s us work on our face-to-face contact and when he looks into my eyes, he knows I’ll never let him go.

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To him, yoga is just something fun that he does with mommy and at school, but to me, it is so much more. It calms me down when I think I can’t do this. It makes me focus on my physical body when my emotional mind is going crazy. It helps me bond with my little boy, who has turned into the happiest, most loving boy any mother could have. And it reminds me that life is tough, but I am tougher and I will get through the hard times and look forward to the good times.

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And now when we say, “HB, do yoga,” this is what he does:

(Follow us on Instagram to see more pictures of us bonding through yoga!)

 

9 Comments

  1. Kendra on September 21, 2016 at 10:44 am

    You are amazing and Lakon is adorable!

    • pinotbylyn on September 22, 2016 at 2:04 pm

      Thanks Kendra. He’s such an amazing little boy.

  2. Michelle Luke on September 21, 2016 at 11:26 am

    Hi Lynn
    very interested in this process as I think about adopting too. Interested in your candor about the difficulties.

    • pinotbylyn on September 22, 2016 at 2:05 pm

      If you ever want to talk, let me know! Are you still in New York?

  3. Tracy on September 25, 2016 at 7:37 am

    Absolutely beautiful and amazing, I love the attitude. Keep it up, you will have an amazing life together.

    • pinotbylyn on October 16, 2016 at 9:30 pm

      Thank you 🙂

  4. Monica B on October 12, 2016 at 8:13 am

    What a beautiful post! Yoga is something that I have been meaning to get into with more discipline, as even the few times where I was able to dedicate an hour I was able to feel the effects of letting go of your stressed out, emotional mind as you say, and focus more on the rhythms of my body…. also, it helps one feel immeasurably great! 🙂

    Getting to see the added benefit of deepening your relationship with Lakon is wonderful. It is something that you can really see in the pictures, and I hope that your mommy-kiddo bonding can only get better. Wishing your family all the best as he continues on with preschool!

    Greetings from Berlin,

    Monica

    • pinotbylyn on October 16, 2016 at 9:30 pm

      Thanks so much Monica! Best of luck to you in Berlin.

  5. Liz on October 23, 2016 at 8:07 pm

    I have enjoyed looking at the photos. What a great way of bonding, for sure!

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